The "woe is me" mindset has absolutely NOTHING to do with the Gothic subculture. The Gothic mindset is all about embracing the darkness and seeing beauty in things that others may see as strange, grotesque, morbid, disturbing, etc. In fact, one doesn't even have to dress to Goth to be Goth and most Goths are actually very happy and fun people. Contrary to what many people believe, Goth is NOT a teenage phase and It continues well into *********. You're either thinking of emos(which are COMPLETELY different than Goth) or the "Goths" you are describing are posers.