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Well, are ya? I'm much too young to be a parent so this doesn't apply to me.

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I brought my kids up with love and respect and they all grew up great kids.....
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It works...thanks
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Not as long as the ***** lives by the rules.
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no , and Ive been paying for it ever since
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Sorry to hear that :/ Bad kids?
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i was an only ***** wand hated my moms domineering ways i went the opposite way - they needed more control than my hubby --another only *****-- had the experience
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I am strict with a good many things, I know when to be & when to be lenient but kids need discipline & that's where most people confuse the two & it's not the same & no one should be beaten ever! Hopefully you will heal before becoming a parent & you can learn to be a good parent but alot of it is common sense, never put another ***** through what you've been through, that would be a travesty, learn from your parents' mistakes! Or even other parents' mistakes also. I've applied this to my own life & my daughter is amazing so it does work, you just have to be determined to do it & never falter from it at any time, always remain steadfast!
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I brought my kids up with love and respect and they all grew up great kids.....
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Same here, John....
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You get back what you put out. If you give love and respect to your kids, that is what you will get back. We did the same and don't have a single regret.
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You seem happy and proud about that, good for you, you seem like a really nice girl.
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Once you start being too strict with kids, they do things behind your back and then when the parent finds out, they dish out a punishment and then it goes in a circle. If you treat kids like ****** and be fair with them, they don't need to go behind your back..
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I so agree. We talked to our kids with the same respect and mannerism we would with an *****. They were all mature kids who were not afraid to come to us with anything, even if they knew we wouldn't be happy about it. They knew there may be consequences, but they were way more worried about us being disappointment than they were fearful of any punishment. THAT is the difference between putting the time in earning respect as opposed to instilling fear.
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If kids get to the point where they are frightened to come to you and tell you things, you are doing something wrong. Because of the way we brought our kids up, we are now very close and all get on and all their kids have grown up in the same way...
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Exactly. My parents were very strict and thought kids should be afraid of their parents. Corporal punishment was their preferred method of "discipline". This made me internalize everything and left me with a tightly controlled simmering anger toward them. It caused a wedge that has never and will never be repaired. And really, they weren't much different than a lot of parents, but to say fear and pain did NOT "work" with me, is a huge understatement.

Our kids relationship with us is totally different and it is ALL about how we treated them when they were young. ******** are human beings and deserve basic dignity, even when they are not at their best. I think many parents forget that. They need to be taught, but the method in which you choose to do that may affect, not only them, but their relationship with YOU for life. I was very aware that most kids will parent the way they were parented. I made sure that I was a better example of a parent for my kids than my parents were with me. It paid off.
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But when I am I will set yes/no boundaries for my kids and firm without being strict if that makes sense.
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But if I was one I would be more of a cool parent and allow my kids to do more things but still not everything.I would probably not be a so good parent right now.I´m still too young and don´t think I want to have kids in the future either.
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It depends ...
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Give thanks to the Lord for that.
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I had very strict parents and it did, indeed, ****. I did not follow their lead when raising my own ******** and my relationship with them is night and day compared to the non-existent relationship I have with my parents. My parents have regrets now, but it's just too late to repair what has been broken.
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Proverbs 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a ***** who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.
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If I had to be, yes.

my kids understand that if they do the right and responsible thing, they get rewarded with freedom.
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I agree.
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....However; I haven't seen a strict parent in over a decade - and it's quite apparent. Actually, the question should be: Are you an obedient parent? If you still push a shopping cart around with your 6 year old in it who says "No" to you in a high shrill voice when you politely ask them to quiet down; you're probably an obedient parent. My suggestion to these obedient parents: Save as much money as possible for your old age as I seriously doubt your ******** will help care for you.
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I think some parents are afraid to discipline their kids, but some kids need a good swat on the behind to get their attention. No one likes a bratty kid and I see a lot of them in the grocery store.....
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When ******** destroy inventory in stores, the stores won't do anything to the parents. They just **** the prices up on everything.
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That's very true....but try telling that to a permissive parent who thinks their little darlings can do no wrong.
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I think i would be firm, but fair
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Not a parent selected wrong answer...
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When I see the word "strict" I tend to think abusive. We were very involved in our kids' lives. Discipline was teaching and guiding and happened daily. Consequences should rarely be needed if you are indeed disciplining and for us, consequences were never once physical. Earning respect as opposed to instilling fear pays off in the long run.
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Dami- some kid's think their parents are super strick, in actuallity their parents
are watching out for them, protecting them. Hope that's the case.
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I was; and a strict grandma too.
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Good for you.
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Super!! Don't give them an inch. ******** are lucky to have parents who are strict these days.
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They're in their forties now! lol
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I agree.
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I am very easy going parent, and ***** up with great ***** ********.....
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I have super strict parents!!!!
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It must ****
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We hate you too! It is good that no ***** will have a parent like you.
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