Question

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder. But fondness only makes the absence longer..." How do long-distance relationships work? I am in awe of them. I'm missing mon ange terribly and we've been apart for just a week.

Answer 1

Generally speaking, they don't work.

Answer 2

They're not easy, and I've done them before...they require a lot of trust and love, which is **** to find these days =|

Answer 3

Thanks Zoe. :)

My love and I have both in bundles, I think it's fair to say. But the absences are horrible - it's conflicting. The thought of them keeps me going, but the longing for them tears me apart. It feels like I can't win then, sometimes... you know?

Answer 4

Oh yes I know...expecially when that loved one passes away.....

Answer 5

It takes a lot of love and trust and communication lol. My boyfriend got transfered cities, and let me tell you, its not easy. But we're making it work.

Answer 6

Thanks, I love the little expression by the way... it sums things up nicely, it puts the right perspective on things. I suppose that's half the battle, not looking at everything with such a defeatist mindset and just getting on with it. Determination, and belief in the relationship, and the thought of meeting up again of course...

Thanks again!

Answer 7

Depends how far the distance is from what I've seen.
And how determined both of you are to make it work.
A relationship requires constant communication.

Answer 8

It does require constant communication, without a shadow of a doubt. Communication is key. The fact that it can't be direct can put quite a strain on the relationship though, would you agree?

Answer 9

Exactly. Physical presence is also needed which is why it can depend on how far apart the two people are.

Answer 10

Thanks, that makes perfect sense. I'm trying to scrape a little sense out of myself really, it's a lot easier when there are people willing to push you along a little.

Spiritual, cardial, and virtual combined don't compare. Physical presence is infinitely preferable...

Answer 11

Generally speaking, they don't work.

Answer 12

Is that from experience or observation?

Answer 13

Both, and from testimonials.

Answer 14

Oh......

......and my awe, or my envy rather, is quite unfounded then?