Brutally Honest: Is it OK to spy on your kids?

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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Brutally Honest: YES it is okay to keep track of what your kids are doing at any age, overtly.

Brutally Honest: It is okay to covertly keep track of your own minor children or of any age as long as they are living under the parent's roof to make sure they abide by the parents rule.

Brutally Honest: I don't call it spying, I call it parenting.

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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
I think it depends on the situation. If the kid is getting into trouble absolutely. But I have a friend who has extremely overprotective parents. Basically she isn't allowed to date, have any guy friends, etc. She can't go outside without her parents outside with her, and she's definitely not allowed to walk down her road. (She lives out in the country with not much crime rate) she's 18 and has the emotional dependence of a 13 year old
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Yes.Its even okay to spy on the parents.Because neveryone should know what everyone is doing ;)
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Supervision is necessary for parenting. Spying is a bad idea.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Brutally Honest Yes I do check in on what they are doing and what Ed said my sentiments exactly. it's not spying on them as long as they live under your roof my son tells me to get out of his room, What?????? this whole house is my room so I'm allowed to look in on all of them. if he don't like it that's too bad. when he pays the rent and bills then he can tell me not to look in his room lol his room is on loan to him, he don't own it
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Good thoughts yet maybe you need some english lessons?
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It is not only OK, it is the parent's duty to know what their kids are involved in.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It depends on the child and the level of trust that has been built. Spying can be a tool for parenting but shouldn't have to be.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It's called parental supervision. It's part of being a parent. Cell phones came along after my kids were grown. If they had been around my boys would have had fliptops.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Absolutely. It's required.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Wisdom has the parent establishing trust early, and not violating the trust. Make certain of open, honest communication so the kid KNOWS he/she can talk and be heard, or spoken to and understand!
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
There's a difference between "spying" and "monitoring." Spying implies that your child doesn't know what you're doing and you could surprise them at any time. That's wrong. However, you can tell your child "I want to have the password to your social media accounts so I can make sure you're not getting in trouble" and the child knows to behave accordingly. But you should not be dishonest with your child, unless you want to raise a dishonest adult.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
I was brought up by a mother who went through all of my things, all of the time. We have never had an open, trusting relationship. I did not go through my kids' drawers, etc when they were teens, I never felt I had to. We had open/honest communication and my husband and I were not judgmental, just gave our opinions on different matters. We had smart kids who stayed out of much trouble. If I had a child who was evasive, behavior changes, then I would probably snoop if they didn't want to talk.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
If for no other reason than you are financially and legally responsible for any damages they may cause. Of course, the main reason would be to make sure they are not getting involved in drugs or other activities that could ruin their lives.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
If the child lives at home, yes, under the parents roof, their rules, their laws. If one
raises their children right from birth, the child will not be untrustworthy and their
will be no good reason to spy. But if a child is willful, and doesn't listen to the rules
then a parent not only has the right, but the responsiblity to spy. Parents are resp-
ible for their children both morally and finacillay. if a child ends up in trouble or on
the wrong side of the law, guess who pays? Yes they have that right.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It's called good parenting.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
As long as they are living at home you have every right to know what they are doing.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
If I had kids, I wouldn't spy, I'd be up front and make it obvious that I'm looking at what they say online and to other people. I'm not scared to "spy" in their face. That's why you have all these kids trolling and cyberbullying online because parents don't check what their kids do.
I'm not going to be raising an internet bully.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It isn't spying, it is parenting.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
I think it destroys the relationship
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
as long as they are minors and live in my home I am responsible
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
There is a difference between checking up on your kids like wvery parent should be doing. But If you are a very strict parent who just takes their phone everytime they get a notification. A parent who doesn't let them go anywhere without the CIA there. That is what I'm againist. My mom occasionally checks my messages and thats okay. However, it would be not okay if she didnt trust me. If you have to spy on your kids that means you don't trust them. You should give your give your kids a chance. If he/she proves that they aren't trustworthy, then they need to be spied on.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
As long as you are responsible for them, yes.
Once they are self-supporting and independent, no.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It's one thing to keep track on your kids, it's another to spy on them. Please don't spy on them.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Of course. It's irresponsible and uncaring, not to mention lazy if you don't.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
They have no right to privacy until they grow up.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Brutally honest - as long as they are minors and they live under my roof - you can bet I will be keeping track of what they are doing - it is called parenting.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Sometimes it's necessary!
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
I caught my mum reading my journal once, and that bruise in our relationship has never, and will never, heal.

Don't do it.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Perfect example.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
If your child has given you a REAL reason not to trust them, then yes.
But if not, leave those kids alone. All relationships are built on trust - your child will never trust you if you don't trust them.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It is called parenting - as a parent, you are responsible for your minor children and you better know what the heck they are doing.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Couldn't have said it better myself.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
That is a very good and very tricky question.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Yes parents need to watch over kids it isn't spying it is being a parent . Those that aren't interested enough to keep eyes open at all times shouldn't be parents at all..Children have no rights except to be taken care of by the parents. children have no rights
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
It is probably your responsibility to watch and watch out for them.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Nope. A parent-child relationship should be based on trust.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Have to spy on them!
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Your obligation as a parent trumps their right to privacy.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
Parent? Yes!

Spy? No!
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,291,900 points)
To a certain point (after about 15 or 16 years of age, you'll want to afford them some privacy ~ even though between 15 and 17 they are still NOT adults). There is spying and there is maintaining situational awareness of your kids/teenagers. ALL parents neeed to be situationally aware of what their teenagers are doing.
Here's a suggestion for ALL parents with teenagers (between 15 and 17 years of age). Ask them this question: "Except for murder, what is the worst thing you could do right now?" If the girl answers "Getting pregnant" that means she is already having ***. If the boy answers "Get a girl pregnant" he's already having ***.
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